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Saturday, June 11, 2016

Being likable

we all know that looking good is one thing but it required certain effort depending how much you put into it...the most good looking people who are bless and born with it still requires effort like exercising...maintaining diet ... having balance lifestyle etc....

however thats is like 1/10 of what makes a person attractive 

Habits - 

people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ). (Travis Bradberry )

  • They are Genuine
Being genuine and honest is essential to being likeable. No one likes a fake. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
  • listen and ask question
listening is part of communication....and ask question but avoid asking a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening, you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.
  • They dont seek attention
People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. You don’t need to develop a big, extroverted personality to be likeable. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over.
  • They are non-Judgemental
I have seen people who have opinion and they tend to be againts certain things but without making an effort to even understand or even try . yes everyone is entitiled in their own opinion but when they rant about it and make it very personal or even discrimenate and influence other you created what we call ' politic' in office or life...
  • being humble
being recognized for an accomplishment, shift the focus to all the people who worked hard to help you get there. This may sound cliché, but if it’s genuine, the fact that you pay attention to others and appreciate their help will show that you’re humble
  • Using positive language
Becoming cognizant of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice (and making certain they’re positive) will draw people to you like ants to a picnic. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in. Positive body language can make all the difference in a conversation.
  • balance 
being outspoken and sensitive....being protective and yet still trust him/her ....everything requires balance ....too one sided makes people felt "uncomfotable"  it shows that you are in order and it shows u take control over emotion and you have your ideology and values that you believe

and all this makes you as a person a unique individual who somehow become likable .....

yet again this is just my opinion....what do you think make a person likable?

Tuesday, June 07, 2016

THis trend S/S 2016 MEN COLOR

well I guess color is never my strength and is all about preference and choices to match individual style....and when u are invited to a theme event

WITHOUT further due here are some of the color and style for people who do follow or is still in discovering process

Think of safari theme but with patterns that resembles be careful of certain design like big pattern that is overwhelming because you dont want to look like you are trying too hard instead smaller printed  pattern will give more clean look ....some people could match and mix different all about balance 

new york , tokyo , city light resembles all the neon and loud colors that catches our eyes just like color blocking and the psychedelic era but more modern touch....fitting is important and mixing 2-3 colors is preffered

think of summer , beach and cruise .....shorts is essential in summer and style preppy top like shirt, cardigan or even suit...just like the elite school the cool kids

Monday, June 06, 2016

my work, how INFJ work, strength and stress

I think some of you might must be wandering what do i work as .....some of you might have guessed but AFTER 6 Month probation I am confirmed ( halleluyah !) next is my medical appointment and then  comes the  letter of confirmation.this is so far as much as i can describe about my career some customer do ask  lot of question about this  new position that supposed to be our key and unique differentiation from other companies 

I Research in LONDON AND NEW YORK WHERE fashion is big it may sound common and you guys might hear from hollywood etc 

Categories : Unique 

job title : Personal Shopper /Style consultant/ image consultant

Shopping is a billion dollar industry and an absolute necessity in everyday life. Think about it. You shop all the time. Maybe you shop for new hip clothes, a new snowboard,  or a special gadget for your father’s Christmas present. Shopping is part of life, but it can also be a career – if you’re a personal shopper.
You may wonder what a personal shopper actually does. Well, it all depends on where you work. Many personal shoppers are self-employed, but others work for large corporations or department stores.

You may find yourself working for busy families, super-rich celebrities, senior citizens, department stores, corporate executives, image consulting agencies, or event planning companies. The market you work for, will dictate where you shop.
 The irony is that there is demand for quality image consultants has risen to a new high as new markets have emerged. The competition is fierce as a plethora of highly qualified candidates seek new jobs and need to differentiate themselves from the competition. Personal and professional development skills become critical in such a climate.  The definition of image consulting has broadened beyond “makeovers” to include behavior, civility and etiquette, body language, interview skills, communication, presentation, and personal branding.

so is like developing your own brand and image to the society.

Office: Department Stores ( all level)/office/ personal Suites

Description: Communicate with customers to help them plan their shopping needs then help them shop for their ideal products ranging from lifestyle (bed and kitchen) , mens or female (bags /shoes). 

Certifications/Education: No training or education requirements. Retail experience is necessary.Good interpersonal skills and since is a niche job ....the store manager tend to choose based on your character,style,  and able to work along in all department . 

Necessary Skills: high EQ , Stylist , excellent Communications,  proven high Selling record , and  EXAMPLARY Customer Service

Potential Employers: Retail department Stores (ROBINSONS , LANE CRAWFORD,Nordstrom’s, Bloomingdales), Corporations, Event Planners, Families, and Celebrities

How did I get the job?

I guess many people did apply but was not selected as they have many criteria that requires to become one. many even quit after a few month or during probation as they cant handle the stress (which is why I am quite stress now) . 

Why do I STAY?

I Have a strong manager who i WORK under with , she is supportive and my team member ( which consist of 4 )seem to like me  and we work well as a the only company which I feel is uniquely SINGAPORE 156 Years of history, I learn a lot and i Fell there is a career progression . I think even though there is politic (is not much) compare to short more positive points then negative....guess my guts told me to stay....

AS you know I AM INFJs 

INFJs are most comfortable in work environments where integrity, harmony and vision are valued.

Possible Careers

  • In or associated with the creative fields in jobs such as artist, writer, musician, composer, interior designer, or desktop publisher
  • In education or counseling in jobs such as teacher, counselor, life coach, researcher, psychologist, social worker, or librarian
  • Associated with religion in jobs such as minister or priest
  • In the Health Care field in jobs such as dietitian, nutritionist, physical therapist, speech-language pathologist, massage therapist.
  • In organizational development in jobs such as human resources specialist, or trainer

Ideal Work Environments

INFJs work best in environments where:
  • Work is values centered 
  • There is an emphasis on helping others grow and develop
  • They feel like they can make a difference
  • Work product is something they believe in
  • The work culture is harmonious and cooperative
  • Creativity and personal insights are valued
  • Workplace is quiet and they have space to work alone


  • Planning and business strategy
  • Sense of commitment and purpose
  • Developing and mentoring others
  • Creative or labor saving solutions
  • Designing and improving processes
  • Creating a harmonious workplace environment
  • Highly focused and organized
  • Works well on teams or as an individual contributor

Sources of Stress

  • Working in highly competitive or tense environments
  • Being forced to extrovert too much
  • Having to monitor too many details
  • Dealing with others who don’t understand their conceptual thinking
  • Trying to do everything – resisting delegation
  • Attempting to make everything perfect
  • Having to provide corrective feedback to subordinates
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